How will you know when you’ve met the goal what’s the measure of success?.When would you like to reach that goal?.The first set of questions helps set your intentions: (For all of them, write down your answers so you can refer to them later.) The following checklist of questions should help with that. But before you can be accountable for outcomes, you have to know the outcomes you want and how you plan to achieve them.
JUDGEMENT VS JUDGMENT HOW TO
How to be accountable: Intentions, efforts and resultsīeing accountable to yourself isn’t difficult it just requires a little time, determination and a healthy dollop of honesty. It is a form of self-empowerment and self-care that meshes with TSM. Ultimately, accountability means taking stock of your progress towards recovery and seeing what’s helping you get there and what’s getting in the way.
It is not a character flaw or the mark of an immoral person. Moral judgments are also irrelevant in light of scientific evidence about AUD: it is a chronic condition with genetic components. Heaping judgment on yourself for lack of willpower, on top of the mistakes you might have made, is pointless self-sabotage. However, as we discussed in an earlier blog post, TSM requires effort, not willpower. Abstinence-based methods often judge people harshly when their willpower fails. Judgment became entwined with AUD because abstinence-based methods originally had (and some still have) religious, spiritual or moral overtones. In the context AUD and TSM, none of this is helpful. Judgment usually doesn’t provide constructive feedback the person can use to avoid the same outcome in the future – apart from “don’t do what you just did.”.Judgment involves making assessments about the person being judged, using an external yardstick that dictates “this is who and what that person should be.” Failure to measure up means the person is bad, immoral, unprincipled or worthless.It also implies there was something “suspect” that required examination in the first place, so even a positive judgment can be rooted in negativity. Judgment frequently leads to the formation negative opinions.Whether you’ve set New Year’s resolutions for your recovery, have decided to participate in Dry January, or simply continue to use TSM, this article offers some practical advice and tips on how being accountable – and avoiding judgment – can help you.įirst, let’s tackle the concept of judgment and how it can be damaging to your recovery. So what is the difference between accountability and judgment, and how does that difference play out in the context of recovery from alcohol use disorder (AUD)? How can you hold yourself accountable but steer clear of judgment while using TSM? Accountability is the helpful, healthier alternative, but it’s often confused, or used interchangeably, with the concept of judgment.
We might even abandon positive changes and fall back on old behaviors, telling ourselves we don’t have what it takes, that we “just can’t do it.”Įngaging in this kind of judgment is counterproductive to recovery because it only undermines you. We struggle to keep our resolutions, then beat ourselves up for not sticking to them. For users of the Sinclair Method (TSM), New Year’s resolutions might focus on some aspect of recovery or involve the decision to participate in “Dry January” or “ Dryuary”. We make resolutions for self-improvement with the best of intentions. For many people, the new year is a time for making a fresh start.
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